tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post2358480948290897749..comments2023-05-14T02:55:26.400-07:00Comments on Daddyhood: "I Hate My Newborn Baby!"Brad (BC) Carverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01662484987015188561noreply@blogger.comBlogger97125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-24934814732506415432021-07-31T05:08:55.704-07:002021-07-31T05:08:55.704-07:00STFU maybe you should do a self check on your prod...STFU maybe you should do a self check on your productive comment. HaterKikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11355456378820467124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-34600340777905060032017-06-27T08:07:31.603-07:002017-06-27T08:07:31.603-07:00To the happy vasectomy guy.. I read in the UK Dail...To the happy vasectomy guy.. I read in the UK Daily Mail [online] about a man whose tubes 'grew back'...and hid wife got pregnant...it was his child..DNA proved it...go easy buddy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-74043673893354048232017-05-11T22:08:31.796-07:002017-05-11T22:08:31.796-07:00I'm happy to say I finally had a vasectomy abo...I'm happy to say I finally had a vasectomy about a month ago and it went great. I learned my lesson with my one child, and only parents will understand this- I love her but I regret having her. And now no future regrets. I will say it's extremely hard to sympathize with parents of more than one kid. You fucking knew what you were getting into after that first one. I'm at peace now with my life, but I will say that getting the snip was one of the best things I have ever done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-56629914955135853402016-07-10T21:26:09.716-07:002016-07-10T21:26:09.716-07:00I only have pity for those parents with one child ...I only have pity for those parents with one child as they couldn't have known what they were getting into. Those dumb bastards with multiples get no sympathy at all. One and done for me. Best decision I've ever made.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-42627285435733662292016-06-10T05:31:45.048-07:002016-06-10T05:31:45.048-07:00Kirk [who was concerned at what he may do when the...Kirk [who was concerned at what he may do when the baby keeps bawling]<br /><br />As you are so aware of your feelings [which are common] it is highly unlikely<br /><br />that you will ever hurt your baby.<br /><br />Self aware people have more control, and when you feel mad, just hand the baby back to your missus.<br /><br />Babies are just programmed to like their mothers more, maybe because of the feeding thing.<br /><br />It is the same when another woman holds someone else's baby...the kid becomes stiff, looks around for it's mum, and bawls.<br /><br />The stiff backed thing..haha! yes, this is the default setting for a furious baby, back arched like a boomerang, and head like a wrecking ball.<br /><br />For the guy whose wife lied to him about ''not being fertile''...I sympathise.<br />Condoms or vasectomy is the only way..for the man to be in control of contraception.<br /><br />women can and do expect far too much from men...men want to come home to a hot meal and peace and quiet..not a bawling baby/toddler and a naggy tearful wife.<br /><br />But when the baby is older, it generally gets easier. <br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-30163316192401869402016-05-22T00:23:16.044-07:002016-05-22T00:23:16.044-07:00Government benefits count as support...Government benefits count as support...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-74744400424421447562016-01-30T09:10:27.192-08:002016-01-30T09:10:27.192-08:00I've just read all the fathers stories on this...I've just read all the fathers stories on this blog and do feel very relieved. When my daughter was born I felt nothing. I still feel nothing to tell the truth, I see her with her mother all calm and content, sleepy, happy, and I think to myself, wow, this is great, but as soon as I get givin(told to) pick up Bub, or change / feed her, she fucking turns into a monster. Screams, goes fucking stiff as a board. All the while fucking woman in my ear, "oh just talk nice and smile at her, calm her down" obviously that shit just don t fucking work, it hasn't worked for 5 months now, Any fucking idiot can see that, so arguments start when I try to give her back to her mother. Logic dictates that when Bub is fucking hysterical, and only the woman can calm her down, then you give the fucking baby back to the woman. I feel a lot of rage and do get violent urges when it goes on and fucking on and it does worries me what I might do. I find myself doing a lot of deep breathing, having just to leave her scream. I feel like my relationship is over now. I like many others on here wish all this never happened to me. So sick of the charade to family and friends.Kirknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-18833598376862782652016-01-20T20:33:08.598-08:002016-01-20T20:33:08.598-08:00I'm so happy this forum exists and even now wi...I'm so happy this forum exists and even now with a four year old, I check it monthly or so. I have a vasectomy appointment coming up soon and am so happy my wife and I have fought off our fucking relatives pressure for more kids. I live ,y wife dearly and she in turn loves our daughter dearly. I love her too, but no doubt, if I could go back in time, I would NOT have had children. They are overrated and not worth the sacrifice. My brother and his wife are likely to be trying for kids soon and I feel so sorry for them if they do. I really wish it was more socially acceptable to tell true feelings about the downsides of parenthood. It likely would save millions from making a massive mistake. So in conclusion, fuck babies and fuck anyone who pressures other to have them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-80662618809528083702015-12-16T16:06:07.965-08:002015-12-16T16:06:07.965-08:00I am the father of an eight month old boy. He does...I am the father of an eight month old boy. He does my nut in. I long for my single days again even though I've been married for eight years. Babies are very hard work. I've often thought of topping myself, but that is the easy cowards way out. I feel like I want to discipline my boy with a good smack on the arse but it'll just make him cry louder probably. Sort of wish he'd never been born. Hopefully this view will change soon. If my missus thinks we're having a second child, she can fuck right off!!!!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-32678838902158311962015-12-01T21:11:17.409-08:002015-12-01T21:11:17.409-08:00To the man with the 'ugly' baby, November ...To the man with the 'ugly' baby, November 4th...don't worry, the baby may grow into his chins.<br />He is a ''second'' baby, and these tend to be bigger than first babies, because the first baby streched the womb a bit- giving the other baby room to grow a bit.<br /><br />Babies often just are ugly, especially when very new. The white ones look like boiled prawns, sort of scarlet.<br />The worst looking are the preemies- they are like translucent baby birds, and very wrinkly and wizened, but by the time they are a few months old, they all look much more human :)<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-5601658088309723082015-12-01T21:00:25.573-08:002015-12-01T21:00:25.573-08:00Ok....here is how it goes.... man, 30's, has a...Ok....here is how it goes.... man, 30's, has a bossy as hell girlfriend who is controlling and neurotic.<br />Bloke is very under the thumb.<br />Woman is older, by a couple of years....tick tock, biological clock.<br />Woman gets pregnant...<br />Baby is born with worrying complications.<br />Friends of the baby's father say ''he is a wreck''<br /><br />He basically has no life, as the girlfriend won't allow it, ''as the baby belongs to both of us''.<br />She refuses to leave the baby with the dad's parents, as she had a row with them [they are nice, sensible people, by the way]<br />everyone is meeting up for a meal out in a restaurant...and the baby will be there, bawling his head off, or being changed nearby.<br />[Because she refuses to leave the baby with anyone, it means the couple can't relax ''as a couple''<br />Bloke has NO sex..like NONE.<br /><br />Other Women find bloke attractive.<br />Scenario for a bit of hanky panky is there...<br /><br />Women, after they have babies, ought to realise that men just don't feel the same way as they do,PROBLEM: we no longer live in a 'society'...it used to be that we all lived near to each other's families, and the older relatives stepped in to help.<br />But now, families are living so far apart.<br /><br />No wonder a baby [which seemed like such a good idea in theory to the woman] creates such mayhem when he or she comes into a couples' life.<br /><br />the answer?<br />Get a nanny.<br />Get a housemaid to clean the house, and a cook to prepare the meals.<br />Get a personal trainer and a personal dresser to keep the missus looking at her best.<br />This is what the British Royals and ''slebs' have.<br />but hey....even their marriages go tits up with all of the above.<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-42753971263939197702015-11-04T21:30:23.668-08:002015-11-04T21:30:23.668-08:00I feel you. When the baby is crying,cuz hes gettin...I feel you. When the baby is crying,cuz hes getting hungry, 30 mins after he ate the whole bottle. He has a clean diaper, but he keeps crying. He still has about 2 hours to his feeding time,leave him crying alone. But no,my wife will take him,carry him, and give me him to hold him,when he is still crying. Nothing changes, he keeps crying. Why the fuck you do that? Just let him cry until his next feeding timeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-68484014411666580822015-07-20T15:02:57.385-07:002015-07-20T15:02:57.385-07:00The dad who sold all his bikes... If you feel that...The dad who sold all his bikes... If you feel that way, just buy a bike...don 't give up on your hobby/sport, as it will just make you even more unhappy.<br /><br />You can always leave? usually whewn a baby comes along, sex goes out the window...I have known men with new babies who are so desperate for a 'shag' they have considered using a prostitute, or having an affair. <br /><br />Women believe that having a baby will ''calm a man down'' or ''bring him to heel''.....<br /><br />oh dear! if only they knew that babies act more like wedges driving a couple apart..<br /><br />Even 'much wanted' babies by both parties have been the cause of marital breakdown as bawling and no sex for months take their toll.<br /><br /> I am a woman, and I DO feel for men who were tricked into being a parent when they didn't want to be one.<br /><br />Women can be so cunning in getting 'up the duff' -it is a biological drive, and I think it is a way that evolution tricks us-women get the urge to have a baby, sometimes out of the blue, and they don't consult their partner, no, they just go ahead and get pregnant, and announce the fact that they ''had an accident''.<br /><br />My neighbour had 4 children, and his new wife had none, he didn't want any more, but she tricked him into getting pregnant, and because she was porky, she was able to hide the 'up the duffery' until she was seven months gone..and it was way too late for a termination.<br /><br />The husband was 'broken'.<br /><br />They had got to the stage where the youngest 4 kids from his last wives were 16yrs [Twins] and he was lumbered with a new kid....in his fifties.<br /><br />They moved shortly afterwards, don't know what happened to the relationship after that.<br /><br />My brother's mate got tricked into having a baby..he was assured his partner was on the pill...but she wasn't.<br /><br />They are now getting a split-and selling the house.<br /><br />Another lad, a sweetheart who had cancer had one child, and then the missus got pregnant again [against his wishes] he was told the cancer would affect his fertility, but doesn't look like it.<br /><br />They had to buy a bigger house in a strange area far from their friends and family.<br /><br />The new baby put an intolerable strain on things with no help from family.<br /><br />They are also splitting, and the bloke is losing his home, until the youngest kid reaches 21!!!<br /><br />Men really ought to get the snip.<br /><br />This is what several man have had who I know, and there is no way any woman could tell .<br /><br />Men have to protect themselves.<br /><br />As the mother of a son [much loved since the beginning] I do feel for men, and think they get a raw deal at the hands of women when it comes to babies.<br /><br />Also, babies do need their dads. <br /><br />A good, kind dad is worth so much to a child. Babies are hard work, but often when kids grow up a bit, dads find them easier to be around.<br /><br />Every child ought to be a wanted child [by both parties] so men do need to really protect themselves from unwanted parenthood.<br /><br />Vasectomy?<br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-31048994303491126842015-07-03T21:56:06.119-07:002015-07-03T21:56:06.119-07:00LOL I hear ya man.LOL I hear ya man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-82563417658019077052015-05-15T01:40:27.605-07:002015-05-15T01:40:27.605-07:00STFU if you can't add anything productive or u...STFU if you can't add anything productive or useful. Try praying that our shitty kids get past the constant screamimg phase without either of their parents killing them, each other or themselves. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-45179877631538653242015-04-21T21:03:17.379-07:002015-04-21T21:03:17.379-07:00I agree 100% with the above post about not being a...I agree 100% with the above post about not being able to fake a congratulations. I usually just say nothing cuz I can't flat out lie like that. So happy my wife and I are on the same page about being 1 and done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-39330264109099665932015-04-12T01:12:29.274-07:002015-04-12T01:12:29.274-07:00Amen. I am a dad and hate it. Recently a good fema...Amen. I am a dad and hate it. Recently a good female friend got pregnant and I know I am supposed to call and congratulate her, but it has been weeks and I just can't get enough fake cheer to do it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-80202470196124435572015-04-12T01:10:03.921-07:002015-04-12T01:10:03.921-07:00Because women don't give a shit about men and ...Because women don't give a shit about men and only use their whims to determine who is right or wrong, even if they are demonstrably shitty moms. I am stuck now and my life is ruined, no reset button do this train wreck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-23842565502780385682015-04-12T01:02:37.664-07:002015-04-12T01:02:37.664-07:00Amen brotherAmen brotherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-2115882943532733012015-04-12T00:55:59.553-07:002015-04-12T00:55:59.553-07:00Yeah I hate being a dad too. It is a horrible scam...Yeah I hate being a dad too. It is a horrible scam and I wish it never happened.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-77017448101684556782015-02-25T10:06:32.945-08:002015-02-25T10:06:32.945-08:00I'm a great my of 3 and I will never hurt them...I'm a great my of 3 and I will never hurt them and I have a 5 month old and i do scream at her and she gets scared and I just texted my husband and told him I can't. Do it and I am crying Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-39193825064439449022015-02-11T20:45:49.874-08:002015-02-11T20:45:49.874-08:00I had the perfect child birth, all natural, health...I had the perfect child birth, all natural, healthy baby, she actually came out beautiful and I'm not just saying that because she was my child. She was a beautiful newborn. She's perfect but at times, I do feel like I hate her. I feel like having a child did ruin my life. I do feel like I'm too selfish to be a mother but I'm not, as a woman carrying out a pregnancy and caring for the child is one of the most selfless things you can do in life so I don't feel I should be judged for feeling the way that I do. I can't help how I feel when I get angry, frustrated, upset. I can't help that sometimes I want to lock my baby in the closet and take off for a couple hours (don't freak out, it's not like I ever will). anf no, I don't blame my baby for "ruining my life". But as a first time parent, you don't know what to expect and it's sad that you don't realize that you're not cut out to be a parent until after you actually have a child. I always thought PPD sounded like a pile of horse shit until I actually experienced it. I had all kinds of crazy, violent thoughts running through my exhausted overactive mind. The anti depressants they put me on only added fuel to the fire. Not to mention, we were on a tight budget so I sacrificed eating to ensure every dollar I had was put away to make sure my baby had everything she needed. I literally went days without eating and everyone knows how hunger can make you irritable. Add sleep deprivation to the mix and you've basics got yourself a psycho on your hands. Parenting makes you crazy, it brings out the worst in you. It's okay to feel like you hate your child, it won't last forever. It's okay to think those insane thoughts as long as you don't act on them. Don't let these Judgemental people make you feel guilty for the way you feel. Expressing yourself is healthier, a lot healthier than letting it bottle up inside you. Best of luck to all of you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-66871451158371712102014-12-03T22:27:01.841-08:002014-12-03T22:27:01.841-08:00I think its good to be able to vent. Society, or c...I think its good to be able to vent. Society, or culture, or whatever doesn't tolerate that (but seem to tolerate everything else, go figure). <br /><br />My wife is on the same kind of wave length I am, totally fine with letting her cry in her room with the door closed, totally fine with just putting her in simple clothes, totally fine with not taking a bunch of pics and vids of all the stupid sh!t babies do. She also realizes that the little booger is made out of cartilage, and doesn't act like she's handling the Dead Sea Scrolls. This baby stage is just a necessary evil we have to go through. We both look at the longer term-when they are older. I love family life, I loved having siblings but when we can talk and be reasonable. She's the same way. There is immense value in finding a good wife that you are in tune with. As the Good Book says, a good wife is a treasure. A good family/marital situation sets up a firm foundation for the child-rearing part of it. <br /><br />Getting to the vent, actually what I noticed after having her is that I hate babies. Not her, she doesn't get on my nerves all that much. No, I hate other people's babies, babies in general, the Platonic form "Baby". Most specifically newborns, preemies too. <br /><br />I think that it was that before I never had to really deal with them, so I never took notice. I've been around them most of my adult life, but always in the way in which I could go home and be away from them so I don't think it ever kicked in. I'm also an introvert, so I like it quiet and by default, I just tended to avoid baby-heavy areas. <br /><br />Now, when I see somebody doting over their wrinkled up ugly little POS like its fine Dresden porcelain I feel that artery pulsing in my forehead and my eye start to bulge. I wish they'd just drop the fcker. <br /><br />They are usually ugly. I hate when people expect (implicitly even) to tell them their newborn is cute. No, it usually isn't and I want to say that or at least be able to decline to say anything. They usually look like one of those big headed gray aliens, with less coordination. They way they move, hold their faces, etc. is even ugly. Preemies are the worst, ugly little sh!ts. <br /><br />The crying is BS. I hate the pathetic whimpering cries of preemies and young newborns just as much as the loud screaming. Shut that little POS up, no one wants to hear that gawdawful racket. <br /><br />Now to the parents who think they are just on cloud 9 or at least act like it, I might just hate them even a little more. Too much doting, too much over-carefulness, too much concern, too much shit buying, etc. I thought watching videos of babies would help me, hell no it didn't. Its just narcissists and morons with nothing better to do that put up videos of babies doing dumb things like shitting themselves or having tummy time. I see all these morons eating up all the worthless shit these little crapsacks do and have the nerve (not to mention stupidity) to share with the world. I started to wish they would push their little heads in all those poopy diapers, or tape the pacifers in their mouths, or whip them with a switch while they were squirming and crying for tummy time. Then I would watch news reports of abuse cases hoping that would ground me of the real deal of where anger could push you, but found myself wishing I could watch the abusive parents in action. <br /><br />I came to this-I thank God that my first child was decent and that my wife is not too mushy about them. I just tune out as much of the rest of the world of newborns as I possibly can and have a few drinks here and there. Whew...good vent.<br /><br />P.S. To all the dumb bitches on this vent post talking about reporting people to CPS or talking all kinds of other shit-go fuck yourselves. You are the kind of people who are like pickle juice on a paper cut and who make this all the harder. You are shitting rainbows and gum drops because of your little shits, well good for you. This post is obviously for venting, not asking for your dumbass advice or sanctimonious judgementalism.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3974425165559760211.post-83828489357786545292014-11-30T07:12:33.703-08:002014-11-30T07:12:33.703-08:00Hang in there bro. It will get better when ur baby...Hang in there bro. It will get better when ur baby is older. I have a toddler and a newborn to deal with now and trust me, it's hard as fuck. Don't give up on yourself and focus on yourself. Eat healthy..work out a little, take supplements. 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